A big thanks to Albert Ellis for this. Here is a list of 10 irrational thoughts that he said must be "recognized, evaluated, challenged and changed". It is sticking to these specific beliefs that cause problems in life rather than the events themselves. It is not the stimulus, like getting into a car wreck, it is the attitude and belief about the event "it's the end of the world", "this always happens to me", "this was just bad luck", "at least no-one was hurt" - that effect our emotions and behaviors and, in-turn, our thoughts. One person in the wreck may react angrily while another is simply upset. A third may take it with a smile. Have a read through the thoughts and see how many you do and really remind yourself that they are irrational thoughts.
Irrational Idea 1 - It is a dire necessity for an adult to be loved or approved by almost everyone for virtually everything he or she does.
Irrational Idea 2 - One should be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving in all possible respects.
Irrational Idea 3 - Certain people are bad, wicked, or villainous and they should be severely blamed and punished for their sins.
Irrational Idea 4 - It is terrible, horrible, and catastrophic when things are not going the way one would like them to go.
Irrational Idea 5 - Human happiness is externally caused and people have little or no ability to control their sorrows or rid themselves of their negative feelings.
Irrational Idea 6 - If something is or may be dangerous or fearsome, one should be terribly occupied with it and upset about it.
Irrational Idea 7 - It is easier to avoid facing many life difficulties and self-responsibilities than to undertake more rewarding forms of self-discipline.
Irrational Idea 8 - The past is all-important and because something once strongly affected one’s life, it should indefinitely do so.
Irrational Idea 9 - People and things should be different from the way that they are, and it is catastrophic if perfect solutions to the grim realities of life are not immediately found.
Irrational Idea 10 - Maximum human happiness can be achieved by inertia and inaction or by passively "enjoying oneself."
I think I'm guilty of at least 3 of these which hopefully qualifies me as human in Ellis' eyes. (not that I need his approval (see number 1).
Irrational Idea 1 - It is a dire necessity for an adult to be loved or approved by almost everyone for virtually everything he or she does.
Irrational Idea 2 - One should be thoroughly competent, adequate, and achieving in all possible respects.
Irrational Idea 3 - Certain people are bad, wicked, or villainous and they should be severely blamed and punished for their sins.
Irrational Idea 4 - It is terrible, horrible, and catastrophic when things are not going the way one would like them to go.
Irrational Idea 5 - Human happiness is externally caused and people have little or no ability to control their sorrows or rid themselves of their negative feelings.
Irrational Idea 6 - If something is or may be dangerous or fearsome, one should be terribly occupied with it and upset about it.
Irrational Idea 7 - It is easier to avoid facing many life difficulties and self-responsibilities than to undertake more rewarding forms of self-discipline.
Irrational Idea 8 - The past is all-important and because something once strongly affected one’s life, it should indefinitely do so.
Irrational Idea 9 - People and things should be different from the way that they are, and it is catastrophic if perfect solutions to the grim realities of life are not immediately found.
Irrational Idea 10 - Maximum human happiness can be achieved by inertia and inaction or by passively "enjoying oneself."
I think I'm guilty of at least 3 of these which hopefully qualifies me as human in Ellis' eyes. (not that I need his approval (see number 1).
2 comments:
Irrational Idea 11: Fast checkout lanes are really fast.
If I could get over that one I'd be much calmer through the day.
I would add to that Irrational Idea 12: Whatever line you are in Walmart is the slowest
But I actually think it's a rational idea.
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