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12 November, 2008

Reaching out

It's nearly Christmas. That's right. I said it. I know this as Wal-mart is currently playing Christmas music. I can usually rely on Wal-mart to tell me what time of year it is and have disposed of my calendar. Christmas is no longer a one day event but a huge 60 day on going affair of celebration and "spend"-ery. As it will soon be Christmas, it's time to start thinking about buying gifts and sending cards to people you know. This process is usually straight forward. I just buy things for people in my direct circle of contact or my closest family members. I decided to reach a little further out of my zone this year and get in contact with old friends and send them a card too but it was a difficult decision to make. I began writing my first email to a friend and asking for their home address. It may have seemed a little strange as we hadn't been in contact since January 2008 but I thought "what have I got to lose?". As I was writing I was overcome with a feeling. I suppose it was anger or just confusion. I mean, why was *I* the one making all the effort. Why haven't I been contacted for my address? I had to push through this and sent the email.

I figure that perhaps they are saying the same thing and if everyone continues to say and think that then nothing will ever happen. So, I made the first step. This morning I had zero responses in my email. I think I managed to finish three emails so far so I'm "oh" for three right now. But I'll keep my chin up, my upper lip stiff and continue down my list.

5 comments:

Evil Twin's Wife said...

You should have seen my MySpace status message last night. I was full of Chardonnay and feeling a bit surly. So, it was "EvilTwin'sWife thinks reaching out is over-rated." In this day and age, we have a million ways to stay in touch with friends and yet, I hear how "busy" they are: no time to call, no time to email, etc. etc. I'm seriously considering a move to Montana to live in a Yurt. LOL.

Chris Cavendish said...

Wal-Mart is having a sale on calendars!

They are trying to confuse you, so you will buy a calendar. haha.

When you get the time, please check out my blg.
I have some very interesting Christmas Music.

CLICK HERE!
Thanks a trillion,
Chris

RedZeppelin said...

Old friends are strange. There is a guy I was best friends with all through childhood. We were inseparable. We lost touch sometime during college and haven't talked in probably 18 or 19 years. The silly thing is, I've stayed in touch with his parents all this time, sending Christmas cards to them every year (with my return address) and asking them to pass on my greetings to my old friend, but I've never heard a thing from him.

All Click said...

ETW: haha are you still feeling AS surly? I'll post an update on my reaching out today and maybe it will help you :-p

Chris: Thanks for stopping by! Your blog is umm busy and loud! :)

RZ: Old friends ARE strange. You are right. Perhaps friends are not simply a rigid concept but are a flowing, changing idea and so the people we are around now are the important and past friends are behind us.

RedZeppelin said...

I think you're right. If I got together with that old friend right now I have no idea what we'd talk about. We may not even have the same interests anymore. It's not like we could go back to the way things were when we were kids and just play with Star Wars figures and our Atari 2600.

When we think about old friend I think it's the times we think about more than the people.

Now if you'll excuse me I'm going to go weep for my lost youth.

And maybe play with my Star Wars figures.